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The Self Relationship Return to Self Study
By LifeAdviceSite.com
The
human psyche is one of the most complex mechanisms imaginable. How we
move through life, how we interact with other people and what we are
able to achieve are all reflections of our relationships and
experiences, but the most important relationship we will experience is
the one with ourselves.
How
is it then, that so many of us breeze through life focused on all the
outside relationships in our lives rather than the one inside? It
seems so many of us are closed off to our selves. We worry what other
people think, what other people say and what other people do. We seek
validation from strangers. We search for happiness in others. We
allow outside circumstances and interference to wreak havoc in our
lives.
Why do we do this?
It
may be that we were not taught basic methods of connecting with
ourselves, communicating with ourselves and validating ourselves. It’s
an anomaly of human nature that we chastise one another for being in
touch with ourselves. If we compliment ourselves or show pride in an
accomplishment, it is often seen as bragging or boastfulness. If we
speak out loud to ourselves, it is seen as an act of insanity and at
the very least draws negative attention through teasing.
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At
the same time, we learn from an early age to look for recognition from
outside sources. We defer to parents, teachers, family and friends
because these figures are all meant to be influences in our lives, but
too often we allow them to be the strongest voice in our lives. By
listening to outside chatter we lose acuity of mind to hear our own
inner voice, and in taking direction we fail to find our own path. | In some part it is the failure of the
model we are given. Those that lead us are meant to offer the building
blocks so we may find the path of self-discovery for ourselves. Some
are able to do this very effectively, while others stumble without
realizing. Rather than offering a compass and teaching us what to do
so we can find our own way, they lead the way themselves and hope we
will remember when the need arises. We need to learn for ourselves how
to strike a finite balance between accepting information from those who
have gone before and finding our own answers and our own
understanding. Advice, support, teaching and discussion are meant to
be a jumping off point for our own self-exploration. Take the
information and find a way of using it to your benefit without relying
on it completely. Utilize it in a way that will suit your individual
needs and allow you to become a better version of you.
Everything
in your life begins inside you. It’s time to refocus our energies
inward despite outside influences. We need to be in touch with
ourselves and achieve understanding of our own psyche in order to
accomplish anything. Look at it this way: if you didn’t feel your
stomach growl from hunger, you wouldn’t know when to eat. You may
share a meal with those around you, and they might hear your stomach
growling, but they cannot tell you when you truly feel hungry. Only
you can. In the same way, each one of us needs to be poised to hear
and act upon the needs within. Carry on an inner dialog with yourself
no matter what is happening outside of you. Learn to recognize your
needs, your desires, your gifts and your abilities.
You
are gloriously and wondrously made, and I promise you will discover
that for yourself if you have yet to do so. Listen to your heart,
explore your mind and remember you are the only true judge of you.
This
relationship you have with yourself promises to be the most fulfilling
you will ever have. When you get it right, you will be amazed how much
better all of the other relationships in your life will become. You
will be happier and more secure, and everything in your life will be
better. Sure, you might have a few friends who don’t share your joy
and start hanging out with you less, but you will be content with the
knowledge that they’re just jealous of your new relationship. Once
they find out they are someone special too, you can hang out on some
great double dates and talk about how great you both are!
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Self Relationship